Week 5

Reading chapter four it the book the on thing the stood out to me the most was the defense between interpersonal communication and advice giving. Because we someone is seeking help to understand something or help figuring what they want to do with their life or whether they should A or B was all advice and that is what the person asking for help was wanting. But when you start stepping into authoritative  role like a peer mentor you have to separate when you should be giving advice and when you should be using interpersonal communication because advice is based on personal experiences and you are giving your opinion which is not always the best. Being a peer mentor is your job to help your students figure things our on their own, but ask helpful questions which will make them think deeper and draw connections on their own. Also sometime they just need someone who is neutral to vent to or bounce ideas off. When thinking of the difference of interpersonal communication and advice giving my grandma comes to mind. Even without knowing the correct terminology or flipping a switch she automatically does this on our weekly phone calls. There are sometime I will talk and talk and talk until the end of whatever is on my mind has been exhausted then an aha moment happens then a say something which would be something she would say. And by reading this chapter it has helped me understand the different and identify someone in my life who uses both styles of listening.